Teresa asks “How did you break your shopping habit? Did you go to Shopaholics Anonymous meetings?”
As you may know, I’m a reformed shopaholic. I spent most of my time shopping, returning, had clothes in the closet never worn or worn only once, never really happy with any of it, would just continue to shop and shop… I didn’t go to meetings. Here’e what I did:
About 9 years ago, I made a list of all the things I was unhappy with and wanted to change in my life. Since my home and wardrobe were at the top, I finally had to acknowledge that all these things I was buying weren’t living up to the promise of making me happy.
I stopped cold-turkey, challenging myself not to buy anything for an entire month. Instead of shopping, I started to think about what I wanted out of my things. I paid attention when I was tempted to buy to find my triggers. An important lesson was ‘just because something is beautiful, doesn’t mean I need to buy it’.
Breaking this habit took practice, patience, self-awareness and introspection. It forced me to figure out what I wanted out of life. But by doing that, I now see all things as tools to help me live the life I want to live.
This didn’t happen overnight, and it wasn’t easy. I still fall into bad habits so I prepared my rules to avoid mistakes. I’m not perfect, and I do at times buy things I shouldn’t. I figure out which rule I broke when I bought it, then either return it, sell it or give it away and move on…