Amanda asks “I would be interested in hearing more about how you saw the connection between your ‘over-shopping’ and the sense of order that you have found. Thanks!”
As you may know, while I’m naturally neat and organized, I’m a shopaholic. And while my over-shopping is under control, I have to work to keep it that way. Here’s how I did it…
Before I became a PO, living in my first apt, there was a moment I looked around and thought “All these things I buy are supposed to make me happy, but the reality is they don’t. I hate my apt; it doesn’t reflect me or how I want to live and I’m embarrassed to have friends over. I hate my wardrobe; I don’t have a strong sense of style and even though I have lots of clothes, I have nothing to wear. I hate my bank account; it’s drained from buying all these things!“
I realized it’s not the AMOUNT of things, it’s about having the RIGHT things, so I stopped shopping and started thinking. If I could figure out how I want my apartment to look, feel, and function, then I should only take things into my life that help me accomplish that. That ‘things’ should be seen as tools to help me live the life I want, and not just stuff or buy or fill up a space.
Once I changed the way I saw the things coming into my life, I buy much less, but I also hardly ever return anything (common practice before) and have very little to give away at the end of the year when doing spring cleaning. I have less but love and use just about everything I have!